Pursuing the Elusive Now

“Suffering usually relates to wanting things to be different than they are.” ~Allan Lokos

A great amount of spiritual teachers support that the primary root of human suffering is the fact that we have completely lost touch with the Now. Throughout all those years of misusing our mind, we have been separated from our own nature. We have unconsciously created a cage for ourselves, and we are bound to suffer for as long as we are being captivated inside it.

To find happiness in the Now has become nearly impossible. To find peace in this moment has become absurd. The Now has become an unknown and strange place to be. Clinging in the past and dwelling in the future have evolved into our second nature and holding on to fear and suffering have become so familiar, that if we get detached from them we would feel like we have been disconnected from our humanity.

As Eckhart Tolle beautifully describes in his book The Power of Now “When a condition or situation that the mind has attached itself to and identified with changes or disappears, the mind cannot accept it. It will cling to the disappearing condition and resist the change. It is almost as if a limb were being torn off your body.”

Detachment from the present moment results in compulsive thinking. Our identity has become a vulnerable mental construct. We have lost touch with our inner, authentic self. Fear and suffering have grown into a fundamental part of our entire state of being.

However, should we consciously transmute them, they could evolve into an integral element on the path toward freedom as well.

Use fear and suffering as motivation to free yourself from them. Stop fighting them! Embrace them! Befriend them! As Paolo Coelho nicely quoted “The best warrior is the one who succeeds in transforming an enemy into a friend.”

Acceptance of the Now


The acceptance of the now is an extremely powerful concept. Practicing acceptance means that we surrender in the present moment and fully accept it for what it is without judgement and any kind of discrimination. We don’t want to go anywhere else, we just are there. Wanting to be in the moment, won’t bring our awareness to the moment, as wanting to be in the moment means that we are looking for the present moment someplace else separately from this moment. Thus, accepting every moment exactly as it is, even the moments that we are not in the moment, will eventually bring us in the Now.


Dissociation from the Ceaseless Mind


Let the mind run! It is not you. How can I know you ask? The mere ability to observe the mind by consciously redirecting our attention toward it, means that we are separate from it. The fact that your mind is running this instant in the background while trying to focus on reading this article and your attention is oscillating between making sense of your thoughts and making sense of this article, is yet another proof that you are not your mind.

Shedding the light of consciousness on our incessant thinking patterns immediately deteriorates them, thus the next time that you become aware that your mind goes into “mode overactive” once more, just repeat the following to your mind: “I know that you are not me. I didn’t choose to think excessively. However, I won’t bother you. Do whatever the fuck you want. You are not me.”

This is liberating.


Redirecting Attention


MeditationThe foundation of almost every meditation practice is the conscious redirection of our attention to an anchor such as a mantra, a mental image, a feeling, the breath or even the birds chirping. Concentrating on the anchor for long enough results in a significant reduction of our obsessive streams of thought, until we become so deeply involved with the anchor that everything else takes place faintly in the background. After a while the anchor itself faints and all that we experience is an intense presence and a serene surrender in the Now.


Dying a Death Before Death Comes


One of the most powerful spiritual practices is to meditate deeply on the mortality of physical forms, including your own. This is called: Die before you die. Go into it deeply. Your physical form is dissolving, is no more. Then a moment comes when all mind-forms or thoughts also die. Yet you are still there – the divine presence that you are. Radiant, fully awake. Nothing that was real ever died, only names, forms, and illusions. ~The Power of Now

Relax! Nothing is under control!

Every beginning has an ending. Death is a part of birth. Destruction is a form of creation. Along with creation comes destruction. Along with birth comes death, thus we might as well live.

Contemplating on death is not pessimism. It is acknowledgement. Nothing is indefinitely.

What we call death is merely the death of our ego and while meditating on it our ego slowly dies. When our ego dies, fear and suffering die along its side and all that is left is what matters most… Pure Presence and all Its inherent qualities.

Applying this mortality angle on every aspect of our lives could eventually set us free from our attachment to this physical reality and let us fulfill our ultimate purpose… To be one hundred percent our very own self!


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Much gratitude.






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